She Breaks my heart   Dear Monisha, I am a 22 year old man working in a research firm. I have a female friend whom I love very much, but she is not my girlfriend and I don´t expect her to become my girlfriend because I love her. I usually don´t show my anger to her, but when I do get angry, she gets really mad at me. This way she breaks my heart, although I never try to break hers. I always control my anger, but she never does. She even called me selfish when I am always with her whenever she needs me. She is a nice girl struggling hard in a crazy world. If she is having problems either in work, with family or with studies, I help her face them. I wanted to know that why is she behaving the way she is even though I am being extra nice to her? Does she hate be because I am not so good looking but I am a good friend of hers? Help me Monisha to understand girls! with best regards Confused ´bout Girls Dear Confused ´bout Girls, Believe it or not, a lot of men in the world today are in your position. Its difficult to understand women. I don´t think that your probably is entirely that you don´t understand women, it seems that it is more or less that you just don´t know how to be a good friend to this girl whom you obviously care a lot about. I suggest that you sit down and talk to her about this. There is not use in trying to figure out her "mysterious" behavior. Just ask her why she is treating you in a specific way. Being a friend to her means being there for her when she needs you, giving her constructive criticism, sharing personal thoughts and feelings between each other, and backing her up no matter what! Everyone goes through mood swings, just bare with her. It could be that she´s just having a bad week. Bare with her and be a good friend. Good luck. Loves, Monisha   Send your question to "Dear Monisha"   Note: The information provided herein is of general nature, and should not be construed as professional advice.