Ever feel your spouse belongs to another planet? Here are some points for understanding your life partner and the inherent reason behind why he or she behaves the way they do!
Men see themselves more as separate individuals, achieving something; women more as persons whose identity is found in relational attachments. Instead of attachment, individual achievement rivets the male imagination; they sometimes find attachments claustrophobic; women are focused on the strengthening of relationships, encouraging others and deepening attachments.
Manīs five most basic needs in marriage:
Womanīs five most basic needs in marriage:
THE PERFECT HUSBAND
Men feel better solving problems. Women feel better talking about problems. A man will rarely talk is about his problems unless he needs expert advice. Women on the other hand value love, communication and relationships. Their sense of self is defined through the quality of their relationships, which are more important than work. For women the sign of love is to offer help without being asked. When his wife talks about problems, a man is quick to offer advice and to solve the problem.
When men are under stress, they tend to want to be alone, to think about how they can solve their problem. When a woman is stressed, she wants to talk it out; talking about the problems causes her to feel better. When a woman talks to a man about her problems he feels she is holding him responsible. When a man doesnīt talk about his problems his wife feels he is ignoring or rejecting her.
Men need to know they are needed. Women need to know they are cherished.This is probably because men need trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement whereas women need caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance.
Men typically handle arguments with intimidation or become silent; women with pretending thereīs no problem or taking all the responsibility for it.
Men think they score big points with big gifts; women score all gifts the same.