Infidelity can lead to a loss of self-esteem and a blow to your relationship when you discover your spouse has deceived you by fooling around. However, this is a reality that can and does strike a number of marriages, and we must learn how to deal this with it, should the ugly situation rear its head in our lives. The first step is a direct confrontation – no hinting or beating around the bush. This is when you hear about the disorderly plight straight from the horse´s mouth. Create a predicament where you can make known your uncertainties and distress to your spouse. Do not be afraid to indulge in a logical debate about the cause of your mistrust, underlining your argument with a substantial set of circumstances that has led you to your suspicions. If your spouse is willing to make a clean break of it, listen instead of interrupting with accusations and tears. But if you are met with an outright contradiction or denials, then ask for a satisfactory explanation to appease your misgivings.
REASONS TO STAY
There is a point in staying together if you both want the marriage to work, even if you have no clue how to go about it. You have a good chance of succeeding when the intention is there. If you can’t stand the sight of each other now but want to stay together for the sake of the children, think carefully about this resolution. It may not be healthy for children if their warring parents stay together. However, many couples do stay together and make the relationship work. Ultimately, the decision to stay or go is up to you both.
AFFAIR PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE
Comfort and compliment your spouse so that he/she won´t look elsewhere for emotional bonding. Other simple events that could bring you together might be a nice meal or an after-dinner walk – such simple things allows you to connect and feel close on a daily basis.
Give your hubby space: Men need time to disconnect from the responsibilities of marriage. This has different connotations for everybody - it may mean time alone in front of the computer/television, golf games with friends or simply time together without conversation. Give him space to do his own thing so that he´s ready to be there for you when you want his time and attention.
Restore the magic: Playing and having fun together will help maintain or restore the sizzle in your relationship. That may mean playing fun games, trying new activities or taking a class together.
Communication is the best thing you can do to iron out any problems, especially if you are open and honest in your relationship, and can talk out any problems before they lead to infidelity. Don´t be hesitant to open up.